Butterfly Tears Tour: 9 Women Who Went Through Abuse and Trauma To Healing

If you know about me or my books, you’ll know I’m an incest and ritual abuse survivor–rape was a daily and nightly occurrence for me growing up–and that I care deeply about breaking silence about sexual violence, and also encouraging healing and hope. We can have happier, better lives even after such violation and trauma.

So I’m happy to be hosting Butterfly Tears–a book on nine women who went through abuse and trauma to healing. Today you can read part one of an interview from the co-editors of Butterfly Tears, and also hear from one of the women featured in the book.

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Butterfly Tears: Stories of Entrapment to Empowerment

About Butterfly Tears:

So many women’s lives are shattered before they even have a chance to begin girls who suffer childhood abuse, neglect, drug addiction, and despair.

Butterfly Tears reveals the gripping, intimate stories of nine brave women who found the strength to turn their dark, raging worlds around. Women who, against all odds, broke free of the destructive cycle of addiction and abuse to attain love, security, and successful lives. Women who have emerged as lawyers, teachers, and counselors who joyfully give back to society.






Butterfly Tears: An Interview with Co-Editors Wil Drouin and Jennifer Thomas

PART 1

Q: How and why did you get involved with Pathways?

Wil: About five years ago, as a senior citizen and realizing my future is now shorter than my past, I began some soul-searching, asking myself the Socratic questions: Why am I here? What am I leaving behind? How can I make the world better? I was referred by a friend who told me that Dave Bishop had an amazing program called Pathways to Independence that I might be interested in. I met Dave and I was astounded by the one-of-a-kind-ness and effectiveness of his program. Getting involved seemed so much more gratifying than simply writing a check to a worthy cause.

Having come from a broken family myself, which landed me in an orphanage and a children’s home, I am especially passionate about to wanting to help at-risk young people who have suffered, and help them become functional. And that’s what this program does. It offers total immersion and support of each girl involved.

Jennifer: I agree. Pathways to Independence is by far the most comprehensive and regimented, yet personal and loving program I have ever heard about. Clients are given everything they need to heal and to succeed in life: a college education, therapy, mentoring, a car, help with rent, free doctors, dentists, etc.–all supplied through volunteer professionals and Pathways supporters (all of whom are lovingly referred to as the Pathways Family). But in return, the clients must dive all-in to their own transformation. They must attend their weekly therapy sessions, never missing, call their mentor, maintain a minimum GPA, work part-time…the list goes on. It’s intense. But it works! And most importantly, they are surrounded by loving, good people who sincerely want to help them succeed. I think experiencing that family they never had makes the biggest difference of all.







Here is what Kaysie (the first of the 9 women who share their story in Butterfly Tears) has to say:

My picture-perfect life growing up was really a shattered family portrait of shame. I was a victim of incest by my father, a Baptist minister, all the way from age 6 to 18. I didn’t know how to escape, so I did so through drugs and alcohol, eventually living in my car in a Target parking lot.

Today, my life is transformed. It has taken hours and years of therapy to move on from the harsh reality of my upbringing. But it has been worth it. After graduating pre-med from Cal State and earning my nursing license, I am now in medical school, pursuing my dream of becoming a nurse practitioner. But most importantly, today I hold my head high and face the world head on. I am living proof that one’s past need not determine their future.


Thank you so much, Kaysie, Wil, and Jennifer for joining me today. 🙂


9 Responses to “Butterfly Tears Tour: 9 Women Who Went Through Abuse and Trauma To Healing”

  1. Heather Digrius Says:

    Sounds like this could really help 🙂

  2. Debbie Gottardi Says:

    As a survivor of sex, ritual, abuse and neglect the first twenty years of my life. Rescources were practically non existent . it would have helped me greatly to have others share their stories. Looking forward to reading.

  3. Cheryl Rainfield Says:

    I agree, Heather!

    Debbie, I know what you mean–it’s so important to have those stories out there.

  4. Raven Sauselein Says:

    It is so amazing to me what people have survived. It seems impossible to be that strong. These stories have so much power to inspire people to survive or to help those who are struggling to make it. These stories need to be voiced, because too long people have remained silent, both sufferers and enablers alike. This makes me so proud. Not only have these wonderful women survived, they are going to help others do it to. I cannot wait to read these stories. I hope that they can teach me how to be strong.

  5. Cheryl Rainfield Says:

    Raven, I think you’re already strong. Strong for surviving whatever pain you’ve been through. That takes strength. And yes–it’s so important to talk about these things, and to hear others’ stories!

  6. Caitie Red Says:

    I’m using a nym because some folks in my life don’t know, but I was sexually, emotionally and physically abused growing up, which left me a target for abusers and bullies for a long time. I’ve had years of therapy and am much better now, but there is still pain and fear sometimes.

  7. Cheryl Rainfield Says:

    Very sorry you’ve been through all that. I know how hard it is. I also know what you mean, that being abused seems to attract other abusers or bullies. I’m very glad you’ve been in therapy; that helps a lot! It’s good to have good support.

  8. Val Says:

    I applaud all the women who have the courage to speak out and relive those horrible memories (there are no good adjectives to describe the pain and suffering these woman went through). I feel bad for anyone who has suffered abuse and hope they get the therapy and justice needed to give them peace.

  9. Cheryl Rainfield Says:

    Therapy helps so much, Val! And justice is a nice wish, too.

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