You deserve to treat yourself the way you do a good friend.

You deserve to give yourself the same love, compassion, empathy, kindness, and patience that you do a dear friend. You are the one who is with you your entire life and you deserve that empathy. So I hope you will treat yourself as gently and as kindly as you do a friend.

This is something that I think is especially important for survivors, but we all need it. My therapist told me years ago to treat myself the way I would a friend, and it helped because I had been taught to hate myself by the cult and my abusers, and it was hard to see myself any other way. But thinking about what I would say to a friend in the same situation really help to clear it up and help me have empathy for myself. It’s also something that Marisa Peer, the hypnotherapist, talks about. It’s really important.

This is a technique that I still use sometimes when I find myself getting down on myself. It’s a technique I hope you will use, too. You deserve your love and compassion!

Love to you,
Cheryl Rainfield, author for SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.

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February 19th, 2019