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Readers, I have a treat for you: Get a new 38-page SCARS story

Readers, I have a treat for you: Get a new 38-page SCARS story that picks up where SCARS left off – ONLY for my newsletter subscribers.

Sign up at www.CherylRainfield.com/YAlit/newsletter and you will be able to download and read FADED SCARS right away.

Find out how Kendra and Meghan are doing!

I hope you enjoy it. Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈 #yalgbtq #yalgbtqbooks #lgbtqiapride #lgbtqiabooks #lgbtqiaYA #scars #selfharm #selfinjury #csa #SAAM #traumasurvivor #incestsurvivor #trauma #healing
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I received the most beautiful, meaningful gifts

I received the most beautiful, meaningful gifts in the mail from artist Stella Papadopoulos @stellapapadopoulos – a positive-message @momentumjewelry bracelet that says You Are Enough (I love affirmations and positive quotes, and this reminds me of @marisapeertherapy ‘s I Am Enough which is such an important message to tell ourselves) ; a beautiful hand-painted flower card by Stella (she even painted the envelope!) ; and such a lovely, meaningful note that made me feel so good to read. Thank you so much, Stella! I have the most generous, kind readers; I feel very lucky!
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If you’re having a hard time this Mother’s Day you are not alone, and I see you.

If you’re having a hard time this Mother’s Day you are not alone, and I see you. Mother’s Day can be hard for so many of us–those of us who had abusive mothers, those who had good mothers but have lost them, those who want to be mothers but can’t, those who were forced to be mothers, those who are caretakers for their sick or dying mothers, those who have lost their children, those who have strained relationships with their children, and anything else that I’ve forgotten that makes it hard.

If this day is hard for you I hope you do whatever you need to do to take good, gentle care of you. Get a snuggle from a pet, get a hug from a friend, call or text someone, use positive distraction, whatever works for you. Today I’m using positive distraction strongly, watching movies and eating chocolate, going for a walk, cuddling with Petal, and staying aware that my depression and pain are from my past trauma.

I’m also trying to remind myself of the positives, of Petal who is like a baby to me, of Jean my therapist who is like a mom to me, of my close friends who are my chosen family, of my published books that give me a voice and that help other people, and of all the lovely readers who let me know that my books help them.

If you are having a hard day today, I hope that your struggling eases, that your mood lift, and that you find comfort.

#csa #SAAM #traumasurvivor #incestsurvivor #trauma #healing
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A poem to my abusers

A poem to my abusers:

You made me afraid
to trust others
to trust myself.
You made me expect
everyone would hate abuse
rape torture me
the way you did.
I fought hard to trust
– sometimes trusting too easily –
to believe in the good
in people
but I found it and keep
finding it.
I heal and keep healing.
You lose. -Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, HUNTED.

I’ve been editing my new manuscript and enjoying it, but there are really intense scenes and chapters that are drawn from my abuse and trauma experience. Sometimes I need to take a break from it, and other times I just need to get it out a bit like this poem.

Talking about our abuse and trauma experience can be healing-especially when we are heard and met with compassion- and so can reading about or hearing about others, knowing that we are not alone. And then other times we just need to escape it. I think both are healthy as long as we’re not doing one or the other constantly. What do you think?

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In case you need to hear this: I am proud of you.

In case you need to hear this:

I am proud of you.

I am proud of you for surviving everything you’ve survived so far.

I am proud of you for every step you’ve taken on your healing journey.

I am proud of you for being who you are and listening to what you really need.

I am proud of you for every bit of compassion you’ve shown to other people, and especially to yourself.

I am proud of you for listening to your intuition and for following your dreams.

I am so proud of you.

Love, Cheryl Rainfield
Author of SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED

#positiveaffirmations #positivemessages #positivevibes
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If you have a dream, I hope you go after it.

If you have a dream, I hope you go after it. If your dream makes you feel happier, or more alive, or if it feels like what you need to be doing, then I hope you keep after it.

It can take a while to get success; it usually doesn’t happen overnight. It took me more than 10 years and hundreds of rejections from editors and agents to get SCARS published. I knew I was going to get rejections. I’d researched it, and I expected it.

For the first 8 years or so I was doing okay, but then 9 years into it and 10 years into it I felt so much depression and so much despair. I wanted to give up–but I couldn’t.

If I had given up then SCARS wouldn’t have been published, and it wouldn’t have reached people and brought healing. So if you have a dream, if there’s something you feel like you need to do, then I hope you don’t give up on it. I hope you don’t give up on you. Keep after your dream.

Love to you, Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.
#folloeyourdream #dontgiveup #positivevibes #positivemessages #loveisstronger #lovetrumpshate
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It always feels so good when readers love my books and let others know –

It always feels so good when readers love my books and let others know – and even more when they see a need for my books, when they know my books can help others feel less alone, stop hurting themselves, know they are strong, and heal. Books are such a safe and powerful way to explore painful issues and be reminded of our own strength.
So I was delighted when reader Linda Hall-Webster posted this. Thank you for your generosity, Linda, in buying a copy for your library, too! You are a sweetheart.
From Linda Hall-Webster: “One of my favorites! Found it in the wild and had to grab it – Cheryl Rainfield, I knew I’d find one . ❤

This is actually my second copy purchased for myself. The first I donated to the library I used to work at because I knew it needed to be there. ❤
This work resonates with me for various reasons, mainly it’s a great story of over coming strife, leaning to trust not only yourself, your thoughts and memories too and that over all love is stronger than anything.” #cherylrainfield #YAwriter #LGBTQwriter #booknerd #bookworm #ireadYA #survivor #feminist #YAlit #YAbooks #bookstagram #bookrecs #scars #hunted #STAINED #selfharm #selfinjury #cutting #sexualabuse #trauma #healing #MeToo #csa #sexualassault
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In case you need to hear this: I believe in you.

In case you need to hear this: I believe in you.

I believe in the goodness inside you.

I believe in your strength.

I believe in your ability to cope on a hard day, and celebrate on a good day.

I believe in you.

And I know that you can get through hard times.

If anyone’s ever told you differently, if anyone’s ever told you that they don’t believe in you or they told you negative things, I hope that you let that just wash off you and drift away.

Because here and now, I believe in you.

And other people will too.

Much love to you all, Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.

#ibelieveinyou #positivevibes #positiveaffirmations #loveisstronger #lovetrumpshate #lovealwayswins
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I know I’m doing something good when I start getting trolls.

I know I’m doing something good when I start getting trolls. A troll posted a rainbow flag beneath a crossed-out sign on my You Don’t Deserve To Be Hurt video on Instagram.
I blocked them (which deleted their comment). It was funny because I didn’t mention #LGBTQ content in that video – although I AM always out/proud

I find it interesting that he left a homophobic comment on that video – reminding survivors and everyone that they don’t deserve to be hurt by anyone. Unless he chose randomly, that means he found something in my message threatening. Avoiding abuse & self-abuse IS political.

Because abuse keeps those with power in power, and keeps those that are oppressed oppressed. Finding ways to escape abuse, including self-abuse that we’ve been taught, is not just healing, it is revolutionary and political.

Keep taking good care of yourself!

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#selflove #loveyourself #lgbtqia
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You deserve to treat yourself the way you do a good friend.

You deserve to treat yourself the way you do a good friend.

You deserve to give yourself the same love, compassion, empathy, kindness, and patience that you do a dear friend. You are the one who is with you your entire life and you deserve that empathy. So I hope you will treat yourself as gently and as kindly as you do a friend.

This is something that I think is especially important for survivors, but we all need it. My therapist told me years ago to treat myself the way I would a friend, and it helped because I had been taught to hate myself by the cult and my abusers, and it was hard to see myself any other way. But thinking about what I would say to a friend in the same situation really help to clear it up and help me have empathy for myself. It’s also something that Marisa Peer, the hypnotherapist, talks about. It’s really important.

This is a technique that I still use sometimes when I find myself getting down on myself. It’s a technique I hope you will use, too. You deserve your love and compassion!

Love to you,
Cheryl Rainfield, author for SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.
#selflove #loveyourself #positivemessages #positivevibes #positiveaffirmations
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