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I received the most beautiful, meaningful gifts

I received the most beautiful, meaningful gifts in the mail from artist Stella Papadopoulos @stellapapadopoulos – a positive-message @momentumjewelry bracelet that says You Are Enough (I love affirmations and positive quotes, and this reminds me of @marisapeertherapy ‘s I Am Enough which is such an important message to tell ourselves) ; a beautiful hand-painted flower card by Stella (she even painted the envelope!) ; and such a lovely, meaningful note that made me feel so good to read. Thank you so much, Stella! I have the most generous, kind readers; I feel very lucky!
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Taking a mini break from another emotionally hard scene in my manuscript

Taking a mini break from another emotionally hard scene in my manuscript with cuddlebug Petal! She is such a sweetie.

And yes, I framed the positive message greeting card because it makes me feel so good to see, and is such a good reminder – every time I see it I’m taking in the message. I hope you have reminders like that, too. I think they help. Repetition of positive messages is especially important for anyone who is a survivor of abuse or trauma, or who has experienced oppression, or who deals with depression or mental health issues.

How do you give yourself positive messages?

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You are brave. You are strong. You are loved.

You are brave. You are strong. You are loved. I hope you take those words in. Hope you believe them, because they are true.

I love this Hallmark greeting card so much that I bought two – one for me and one for a friend. (Thankfully I found it at the dollar store!) The message just speaks to me.

Do you ever do that – buy yourself a greeting card?

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In case you need to hear this: I am proud of you.

In case you need to hear this:

I am proud of you.

I am proud of you for surviving everything you’ve survived so far.

I am proud of you for every step you’ve taken on your healing journey.

I am proud of you for being who you are and listening to what you really need.

I am proud of you for every bit of compassion you’ve shown to other people, and especially to yourself.

I am proud of you for listening to your intuition and for following your dreams.

I am so proud of you.

Love, Cheryl Rainfield
Author of SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED

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If you have a dream, I hope you go after it.

If you have a dream, I hope you go after it. If your dream makes you feel happier, or more alive, or if it feels like what you need to be doing, then I hope you keep after it.

It can take a while to get success; it usually doesn’t happen overnight. It took me more than 10 years and hundreds of rejections from editors and agents to get SCARS published. I knew I was going to get rejections. I’d researched it, and I expected it.

For the first 8 years or so I was doing okay, but then 9 years into it and 10 years into it I felt so much depression and so much despair. I wanted to give up–but I couldn’t.

If I had given up then SCARS wouldn’t have been published, and it wouldn’t have reached people and brought healing. So if you have a dream, if there’s something you feel like you need to do, then I hope you don’t give up on it. I hope you don’t give up on you. Keep after your dream.

Love to you, Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.
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You deserve to treat yourself the way you do a good friend.

You deserve to treat yourself the way you do a good friend.

You deserve to give yourself the same love, compassion, empathy, kindness, and patience that you do a dear friend. You are the one who is with you your entire life and you deserve that empathy. So I hope you will treat yourself as gently and as kindly as you do a friend.

This is something that I think is especially important for survivors, but we all need it. My therapist told me years ago to treat myself the way I would a friend, and it helped because I had been taught to hate myself by the cult and my abusers, and it was hard to see myself any other way. But thinking about what I would say to a friend in the same situation really help to clear it up and help me have empathy for myself. It’s also something that Marisa Peer, the hypnotherapist, talks about. It’s really important.

This is a technique that I still use sometimes when I find myself getting down on myself. It’s a technique I hope you will use, too. You deserve your love and compassion!

Love to you,
Cheryl Rainfield, author for SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.
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I think we all need reminders of positives, so this is mine right now for you:

I think we all need reminders of positives, so this is mine right now for you:

I hope you remember always that you don’t deserve to be hurt, not ever–not even by yourself.

You do deserve to be treated with compassion, empathy, and love by others and by yourself.

I hope you take good care of yourself. And I hope you keep connecting with others. We need those connections. And we need to treat ourselves gently and kindly, as kindly and gently as we would a friend.

Love to you all,
Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, HUNTED
P. S. if it helps you, feel free to download this video and play it whenever you need to. I mean every word.
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