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Readers, I have a treat for you: Get a new 38-page SCARS story

Readers, I have a treat for you: Get a new 38-page SCARS story that picks up where SCARS left off – ONLY for my newsletter subscribers.

Sign up at www.CherylRainfield.com/YAlit/newsletter and you will be able to download and read FADED SCARS right away.

Find out how Kendra and Meghan are doing!

I hope you enjoy it. Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈 #yalgbtq #yalgbtqbooks #lgbtqiapride #lgbtqiabooks #lgbtqiaYA #scars #selfharm #selfinjury #csa #SAAM #traumasurvivor #incestsurvivor #trauma #healing
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If you’re having a hard time this Mother’s Day you are not alone, and I see you.

If you’re having a hard time this Mother’s Day you are not alone, and I see you. Mother’s Day can be hard for so many of us–those of us who had abusive mothers, those who had good mothers but have lost them, those who want to be mothers but can’t, those who were forced to be mothers, those who are caretakers for their sick or dying mothers, those who have lost their children, those who have strained relationships with their children, and anything else that I’ve forgotten that makes it hard.

If this day is hard for you I hope you do whatever you need to do to take good, gentle care of you. Get a snuggle from a pet, get a hug from a friend, call or text someone, use positive distraction, whatever works for you. Today I’m using positive distraction strongly, watching movies and eating chocolate, going for a walk, cuddling with Petal, and staying aware that my depression and pain are from my past trauma.

I’m also trying to remind myself of the positives, of Petal who is like a baby to me, of Jean my therapist who is like a mom to me, of my close friends who are my chosen family, of my published books that give me a voice and that help other people, and of all the lovely readers who let me know that my books help them.

If you are having a hard day today, I hope that your struggling eases, that your mood lift, and that you find comfort.

#csa #SAAM #traumasurvivor #incestsurvivor #trauma #healing
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A number of teen readers have messaged me lately in distress, feeling that they don’t matter, that their lives don’t matter.

A number of teen readers have messaged me lately in distress, feeling that they don’t matter, that their lives don’t matter. I know that feeling well – but please remember that you matter, that your life has worth, and that things will get better. It may not feel like it right now, but it will. But you have to be here to see it get better.

If you are feeling suicidal or like hurting yourself, please reach out to crisis lines, and please read my Reasons Not To Kill Yourself. I have been there so many times because of the trauma from the torture and abuse. But despair and depression can pass, and the effects of trauma can lessen, and things get better. I am grateful that I am here now, and you can be, too. Please take good, gentle care of yourself.
You can read my post and download a copy here: http://cherylrainfield.com/blog/index.php/2012/07/21/if-youre-thinking-of-suicide/

You can find my Reasons Not To Hurt Yourself post here: http://cherylrainfield.com/blog/index.php/2011/05/06/reasons-not-to-hurt-yourself/

You can find some good crisis lines here:http://www.crisistextline.org/get-help-now/

Please share this; someone you know might need it.

#suicideprevention #suicideawareness #suicide #selfharm #selfinjury #trauma #csa #MeToo #saam
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Taking a mini break from another emotionally hard scene in my manuscript

Taking a mini break from another emotionally hard scene in my manuscript with cuddlebug Petal! She is such a sweetie.

And yes, I framed the positive message greeting card because it makes me feel so good to see, and is such a good reminder – every time I see it I’m taking in the message. I hope you have reminders like that, too. I think they help. Repetition of positive messages is especially important for anyone who is a survivor of abuse or trauma, or who has experienced oppression, or who deals with depression or mental health issues.

How do you give yourself positive messages?

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A poem to my abusers

A poem to my abusers:

You made me afraid
to trust others
to trust myself.
You made me expect
everyone would hate abuse
rape torture me
the way you did.
I fought hard to trust
– sometimes trusting too easily –
to believe in the good
in people
but I found it and keep
finding it.
I heal and keep healing.
You lose. -Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, HUNTED.

I’ve been editing my new manuscript and enjoying it, but there are really intense scenes and chapters that are drawn from my abuse and trauma experience. Sometimes I need to take a break from it, and other times I just need to get it out a bit like this poem.

Talking about our abuse and trauma experience can be healing-especially when we are heard and met with compassion- and so can reading about or hearing about others, knowing that we are not alone. And then other times we just need to escape it. I think both are healthy as long as we’re not doing one or the other constantly. What do you think?

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I am delighted that STAINED is featured in a Wiki video: 12 Compelling Young Adult Thrillers.

I am delighted that STAINED is featured in a Wiki video: 12 Compelling Young Adult Thrillers. (beaming) It is timely since Sarah in STAINED is raped by her captor and must find a way to save herself, just as I did – and this is #SAAM Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Survivors are strong.
You can see the video with 12 YA thrillers at https://wiki.ezvid.com/m/12-compelling-young-adult-thrillers-n3abSt2GDGfZL

#YAthriller #YAbooks #yabookrecommendations #bookrecs #bookrecommendations
#stained #abduction #rape #sexualassault #MeToo #csa
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Complex PTSD fits me and so many survivors of incest, child sexual abuse, and torture.

Complex PTSD fits me and so many survivors of incest, child sexual abuse, and torture. If you’re a survivor or someone you love is, you might want to read the article.
https://themighty.com/2017/08/life-impacting-symptoms-of-complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/

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#BelieveSurvivors As a fellow survivor, I believe you, I hear you, I stand with you. #MeToo #TimesUp

#BelieveSurvivors As a fellow survivor, I believe you, I hear you, I stand with you. #MeToo #TimesUp

It takes a lot of courage and strength to speak out about rape, sexual harassment, or incest in a society that does not often believe survivors and usually blames us. Please believe survivors when we speak out.

#rapesurvivor #rapeculture #csa #SAAM #healing
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April Is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Speak out when you can. Support survivors. Take gentle care of yourself. I do. smile emoticon -Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED, and incest, rape, and torture survivor. April is Sexual Assault … Continue reading

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