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I know I’m doing something good when I start getting trolls.

I know I’m doing something good when I start getting trolls. A troll posted a rainbow flag beneath a crossed-out sign on my You Don’t Deserve To Be Hurt video on Instagram.
I blocked them (which deleted their comment). It was funny because I didn’t mention #LGBTQ content in that video – although I AM always out/proud

I find it interesting that he left a homophobic comment on that video – reminding survivors and everyone that they don’t deserve to be hurt by anyone. Unless he chose randomly, that means he found something in my message threatening. Avoiding abuse & self-abuse IS political.

Because abuse keeps those with power in power, and keeps those that are oppressed oppressed. Finding ways to escape abuse, including self-abuse that we’ve been taught, is not just healing, it is revolutionary and political.

Keep taking good care of yourself!

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You deserve to treat yourself the way you do a good friend.

You deserve to treat yourself the way you do a good friend.

You deserve to give yourself the same love, compassion, empathy, kindness, and patience that you do a dear friend. You are the one who is with you your entire life and you deserve that empathy. So I hope you will treat yourself as gently and as kindly as you do a friend.

This is something that I think is especially important for survivors, but we all need it. My therapist told me years ago to treat myself the way I would a friend, and it helped because I had been taught to hate myself by the cult and my abusers, and it was hard to see myself any other way. But thinking about what I would say to a friend in the same situation really help to clear it up and help me have empathy for myself. It’s also something that Marisa Peer, the hypnotherapist, talks about. It’s really important.

This is a technique that I still use sometimes when I find myself getting down on myself. It’s a technique I hope you will use, too. You deserve your love and compassion!

Love to you,
Cheryl Rainfield, author for SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.
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