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Readers, I have a treat for you: Get a new 38-page SCARS story
Readers, I have a treat for you: Get a new 38-page SCARS story that picks up where SCARS left off – ONLY for my newsletter subscribers.
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If you’re having a hard time this Mother’s Day you are not alone, and I see you.
If you’re having a hard time this Mother’s Day you are not alone, and I see you. Mother’s Day can be hard for so many of us–those of us who had abusive mothers, those who had good mothers but have lost them, those who want to be mothers but can’t, those who were forced to be mothers, those who are caretakers for their sick or dying mothers, those who have lost their children, those who have strained relationships with their children, and anything else that I’ve forgotten that makes it hard.
If this day is hard for you I hope you do whatever you need to do to take good, gentle care of you. Get a snuggle from a pet, get a hug from a friend, call or text someone, use positive distraction, whatever works for you. Today I’m using positive distraction strongly, watching movies and eating chocolate, going for a walk, cuddling with Petal, and staying aware that my depression and pain are from my past trauma.
I’m also trying to remind myself of the positives, of Petal who is like a baby to me, of Jean my therapist who is like a mom to me, of my close friends who are my chosen family, of my published books that give me a voice and that help other people, and of all the lovely readers who let me know that my books help them.
If you are having a hard day today, I hope that your struggling eases, that your mood lift, and that you find comfort.
#csa #SAAM #traumasurvivor #incestsurvivor #trauma #healing
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A number of teen readers have messaged me lately in distress, feeling that they don’t matter, that their lives don’t matter.
A number of teen readers have messaged me lately in distress, feeling that they don’t matter, that their lives don’t matter. I know that feeling well – but please remember that you matter, that your life has worth, and that things will get better. It may not feel like it right now, but it will. But you have to be here to see it get better.
If you are feeling suicidal or like hurting yourself, please reach out to crisis lines, and please read my Reasons Not To Kill Yourself. I have been there so many times because of the trauma from the torture and abuse. But despair and depression can pass, and the effects of trauma can lessen, and things get better. I am grateful that I am here now, and you can be, too. Please take good, gentle care of yourself.
You can read my post and download a copy here: http://cherylrainfield.com/blog/index.php/2012/07/21/if-youre-thinking-of-suicide/
You can find my Reasons Not To Hurt Yourself post here: http://cherylrainfield.com/blog/index.php/2011/05/06/reasons-not-to-hurt-yourself/
You can find some good crisis lines here:http://www.crisistextline.org/get-help-now/
Please share this; someone you know might need it.
#suicideprevention #suicideawareness #suicide #selfharm #selfinjury #trauma #csa #MeToo #saam
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A poem to my abusers
A poem to my abusers:
You made me afraid
to trust others
to trust myself.
You made me expect
everyone would hate abuse
rape torture me
the way you did.
I fought hard to trust
– sometimes trusting too easily –
to believe in the good
in people
but I found it and keep
finding it.
I heal and keep healing.
You lose. -Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, HUNTED.
I’ve been editing my new manuscript and enjoying it, but there are really intense scenes and chapters that are drawn from my abuse and trauma experience. Sometimes I need to take a break from it, and other times I just need to get it out a bit like this poem.
Talking about our abuse and trauma experience can be healing-especially when we are heard and met with compassion- and so can reading about or hearing about others, knowing that we are not alone. And then other times we just need to escape it. I think both are healthy as long as we’re not doing one or the other constantly. What do you think?
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I am delighted that STAINED is featured in a Wiki video: 12 Compelling Young Adult Thrillers.
I am delighted that STAINED is featured in a Wiki video: 12 Compelling Young Adult Thrillers. (beaming) It is timely since Sarah in STAINED is raped by her captor and must find a way to save herself, just as I did – and this is #SAAM Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Survivors are strong.
You can see the video with 12 YA thrillers at https://wiki.ezvid.com/m/12-compelling-young-adult-thrillers-n3abSt2GDGfZL
#YAthriller #YAbooks #yabookrecommendations #bookrecs #bookrecommendations
#stained #abduction #rape #sexualassault #MeToo #csa
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Complex PTSD fits me and so many survivors of incest, child sexual abuse, and torture.
Complex PTSD fits me and so many survivors of incest, child sexual abuse, and torture. If you’re a survivor or someone you love is, you might want to read the article.
https://themighty.com/2017/08/life-impacting-symptoms-of-complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/
#cptsd #ptsd #SAAM #csa #incest #sexualabuse #childsexualabuse #ra
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It always feels so good when readers love my books and let others know –
It always feels so good when readers love my books and let others know – and even more when they see a need for my books, when they know my books can help others feel less alone, stop hurting themselves, know they are strong, and heal. Books are such a safe and powerful way to explore painful issues and be reminded of our own strength.
So I was delighted when reader Linda Hall-Webster posted this. Thank you for your generosity, Linda, in buying a copy for your library, too! You are a sweetheart.
From Linda Hall-Webster: “One of my favorites! Found it in the wild and had to grab it – Cheryl Rainfield, I knew I’d find one . ❤
This is actually my second copy purchased for myself. The first I donated to the library I used to work at because I knew it needed to be there. ❤
This work resonates with me for various reasons, mainly it’s a great story of over coming strife, leaning to trust not only yourself, your thoughts and memories too and that over all love is stronger than anything.” #cherylrainfield #YAwriter #LGBTQwriter #booknerd #bookworm #ireadYA #survivor #feminist #YAlit #YAbooks #bookstagram #bookrecs #scars #hunted #STAINED #selfharm #selfinjury #cutting #sexualabuse #trauma #healing #MeToo #csa #sexualassault
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In case you need to hear this: I believe in you.
In case you need to hear this: I believe in you.
I believe in the goodness inside you.
I believe in your strength.
I believe in your ability to cope on a hard day, and celebrate on a good day.
I believe in you.
And I know that you can get through hard times.
If anyone’s ever told you differently, if anyone’s ever told you that they don’t believe in you or they told you negative things, I hope that you let that just wash off you and drift away.
Because here and now, I believe in you.
And other people will too.
Much love to you all, Cheryl Rainfield, author of SCARS, STAINED, and HUNTED.
#ibelieveinyou #positivevibes #positiveaffirmations #loveisstronger #lovetrumpshate #lovealwayswins
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I know I’m doing something good when I start getting trolls.
I know I’m doing something good when I start getting trolls. A troll posted a rainbow flag beneath a crossed-out sign on my You Don’t Deserve To Be Hurt video on Instagram.
I blocked them (which deleted their comment). It was funny because I didn’t mention #LGBTQ content in that video – although I AM always out/proud
I find it interesting that he left a homophobic comment on that video – reminding survivors and everyone that they don’t deserve to be hurt by anyone. Unless he chose randomly, that means he found something in my message threatening. Avoiding abuse & self-abuse IS political.
Because abuse keeps those with power in power, and keeps those that are oppressed oppressed. Finding ways to escape abuse, including self-abuse that we’ve been taught, is not just healing, it is revolutionary and political.
Keep taking good care of yourself!
#BelieveSurvivors #istandwithyou #ibelieveyou #lovetrumpshate #lovealwayswins
#selflove #loveyourself #lgbtqia
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